30 Things to Do When You Finally See Each Other

Activities & Travel 9 min read
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When you're in a long-distance relationship, visits are everything. But after the initial excitement of being together wears off (usually about 3 hours in), you might find yourself wondering: what should we actually do with our limited time together?

You want to make every moment count, but you also don't want to overschedule and stress yourselves out. The key is having a menu of options ready so you can choose based on your mood, energy level, and how much time you have.

Here are 30 ideas organized by category, plus tips on when each works best.

Adventures & Outdoor Activities

1. Go on a Hike or Nature Walk

Fresh air, beautiful scenery, and uninterrupted conversation. Hiking is perfect because you're side by side, moving at your own pace, with plenty of time to talk without the pressure of eye contact.

Best for: Morning or afternoon activities when you both have energy. Great for deeper conversations.

2. Explore a New Neighborhood

Pick a part of town neither of you knows well and just wander. Stop at coffee shops, browse bookstores, people-watch from a park bench. Discovery mode is bonding.

Best for: Saturday afternoons. Low-pressure and adaptable to any timeline.

3. Visit a Farmers Market

Browse local produce, try samples, buy ingredients for a meal you'll cook together later. It's domestic and romantic at the same time.

Best for: Sunday mornings. Turns grocery shopping into a date.

4. Take a Day Trip to a Nearby Town

Research small towns or nature spots within 1-2 hours and make it an adventure. Having a destination creates excitement without the stress of a big trip.

Best for: When you have a full day available. Book something special on Booking.com if you want to stay overnight.

5. Go to the Beach or Lake

Water is inherently relaxing. Bring a picnic, rent kayaks, or just lay on a blanket and read. The sound of waves is better than any couples therapy.

Best for: Summer visits or warm climates. Perfect for recharging together.

6. Bike Around the City

Rent bikes or use a bike-share program. You'll cover more ground than walking and it feels playful and active.

Best for: Cities with good bike infrastructure. Great way to see a new place together.

Food & Dining Experiences

7. Cook a Fancy Meal Together

Pick a recipe that's slightly beyond your skill level. The process is bonding, and you get a delicious meal at the end. Plus, cooking together is practice for living together someday.

Best for: Any evening. More intimate and cheaper than going out.

8. Try a Restaurant You've Both Been Wanting to Visit

Make a reservation ahead of time for that trendy spot or romantic restaurant. Dress up, take your time, order things you wouldn't normally order.

Best for: Saturday nights. Treats your visit like the special occasion it is.

9. Do a Food Tour

Many cities offer guided food tours, or create your own by hitting 3-4 spots in one neighborhood (tacos at one place, dessert at another, coffee at a third).

Best for: Afternoons when you want structure but flexibility.

10. Take a Cooking or Baking Class Together

Many cities offer couple's cooking classes. You learn something new, work as a team, and eat what you made.

Best for: When you want a planned activity that's interactive and fun.

11. Have a Picnic

Pack sandwiches, snacks, wine, and a blanket. Find a park with a nice view. Simple but romantic, and you can spend hours just talking.

Best for: Good weather days. Perfect for lazy afternoons.

12. Go on a Coffee Shop Crawl

Visit 3-4 different coffee shops in one morning or afternoon. Compare lattes, try different pastries, work on a crossword together at each spot.

Best for: Lazy Sundays when you want low-key exploration.

Arts & Culture

13. Visit a Museum or Art Gallery

Many museums have free days or evenings. Walk through exhibits, discuss what you like and don't like, learn something new together.

Best for: Rainy days or when you want something indoor and stimulating.

14. Go to a Live Music Show or Concert

Check local listings for live music. Even small venue shows create shared memories and give you something to reminisce about later.

Best for: Friday or Saturday nights. High energy and fun.

15. See a Comedy Show

Laughing together is bonding. Find local comedy clubs or improv shows. Even if the comedian isn't great, you'll have fun making fun of them later.

Best for: Date nights when you want entertainment that doesn't require deep conversation.

16. Attend a Local Festival or Event

Check what's happening during your visit: street fairs, music festivals, holiday markets. These create a festive atmosphere and photo opportunities.

Best for: Spontaneous plans. These often pop up without advance planning needed.

17. Go to a Movie Theater

Yes, it's classic and maybe boring, but there's something nice about sitting in a dark theater holding hands. Pick something you both want to see, or see something terrible and roast it afterward.

Best for: When you're exhausted but don't want to just sit at home.

Relaxation & Wellness

18. Get Couples Massages

Splurge on a spa day or couples massage. You'll both be relaxed and refreshed, and it's a nice luxury that marks the visit as special.

Best for: When you both need to decompress. Book ahead of time.

19. Do Yoga or a Workout Class Together

Many studios offer drop-in classes. It's energizing and healthy, and you'll feel good about yourselves afterward.

Best for: Morning activities when you want to start the day actively.

20. Take a Bath Together

If there's a bathtub, light some candles, add bubble bath or bath salts, bring wine or tea. It's intimate and relaxing.

Best for: Evening wind-down before bed.

At-Home Activities

21. Have a Movie or TV Marathon

Pick a series you've been meaning to watch together, make popcorn, build a blanket fort if you're feeling playful. Just existing in the same space is underrated.

Best for: When you're tired, when the weather is bad, or Sunday evenings.

22. Make Breakfast in Bed

Wake up early (or take turns), surprise them with coffee and pancakes or eggs, and bring it back to bed. Small gestures feel huge in LDRs.

Best for: Saturday or Sunday mornings when you have nowhere to be.

23. Play Board Games or Video Games

Cooperative games work better than competitive ones (unless you both love competition). Trying to win together against the game builds teamwork.

Best for: Low-key evenings when you want entertainment but not screens.

24. Do a Puzzle Together

Buy a 500-1000 piece puzzle and work on it throughout the visit. It gives you something to do while talking and creates a tangible accomplishment.

Best for: Background activity during the entire visit. Great for talkers.

25. Read Together

Read separate books in the same room, or read the same book and discuss it. The companionable silence is what you'd have if you lived together.

Best for: Quiet afternoons or mornings. Practice for domestic life.

26. Give Each Other Massages

You don't need a professional. Buy some nice massage oil, put on relaxing music, and take turns. It's intimate and caring.

Best for: Evenings when you want to wind down and connect physically.

Creating & Building Together

27. Take Photos Together

Have a photoshoot, just the two of you. Use a tripod or self-timer, find good lighting, be silly and serious. You'll want photos to look at during the weeks apart.

Best for: Golden hour (hour before sunset) for the best natural lighting.

28. Work on a Project Together

Build or create something: furniture to assemble, a scrapbook of your relationship, reorganizing their closet, painting a room. Accomplishing something together feels good.

Best for: When you have several hours and want to be productive together.

29. Make a Playlist Together

Create a shared playlist of "your songs," songs that remind you of each other, or just songs you both love. You can listen to it when you're apart.

Best for: Anytime. Can be done while doing other things.

30. Plan Your Next Visit (or Your Future)

Look at calendars and book your next visit before this one ends. It gives you both something to look forward to. If you're feeling ambitious, talk about bigger future plans: moving in together, where you might live, trips you want to take.

Best for: Sunday evenings when you're feeling the impending goodbye. Planning the next visit softens it.

How to Choose What to Do

With 30 options, how do you decide? Here's a framework:

Consider Your Energy Levels

Balance Activity Types

A good visit includes:

Consider the Weather

Factor in Budget

Think About Conversation Needs

Sample Visit Schedule

Here's how you might mix and match activities for a 3-day weekend visit:

Friday Evening

Saturday

Sunday

Notice the mix: one splurge activity (nice dinner), several free activities (cooking, reading, hiking), a balance of active and relaxed, and plenty of conversation time.

The Most Important Thing

Here's what I've learned after years of LDR visits: what you do matters less than how present you are while doing it.

You could have the perfect itinerary and still have a mediocre visit if you're both distracted by phones, stressed about the future, or trying too hard to make it "perfect."

Conversely, you could spend the entire weekend doing laundry and grocery shopping and have an amazing time if you're fully present with each other.

The best visits happen when you:

Use these 30 ideas as a starting point, not a checklist. Pick what resonates with you as a couple, adapt to your circumstances, and remember that simply being in the same room is already better than being apart.

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