Physical intimacy is one of the biggest challenges in long-distance relationships. While nothing replaces being together, thoughtful intimate gifts can help maintain that spark, build anticipation for your next visit, and show your partner you're thinking about them in all ways.
This guide covers tasteful, exciting gifts that enhance intimacy from a distance. Whether you're looking for something playful and fun or genuinely intimate, we've curated options for every comfort level and relationship stage.
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Why Intimate Gifts Matter in LDRs
- Maintains Physical Connection: Keeps that aspect of your relationship alive despite distance
- Builds Anticipation: Creates excitement for your next in-person visit
- Shows Desire: Communicates that you still want them physically
- Creates Playfulness: Adds fun and flirtation to your relationship
- Bridges a Real Gap: Addresses the physical touch challenge head-on
Level 1: Flirty & Playful (Starting Point)
1. Romantic Lingerie Package
Price: $30-$150 | Where: Victoria's Secret, Savage X Fenty, Adore Me
Gift them something beautiful to wear during video calls or save for your next visit. Include note about when you'd love to see them in it.
Tips for Gifting Lingerie:
- Know their size (check tags in their drawer if possible)
- Choose their favorite colors
- Consider comfort level—start conservative, can always get spicier
- Include gift receipt for exchanges
- Add sweet/flirty note
2. Sensual Massage Oil & Candle Set
Price: $25-$60
For now, they can use it on themselves. For later, you'll use it on them. Choose warm, romantic scents like vanilla, jasmine, or sandalwood.
Suggested Brands:
- Kama Sutra (classic massage oils)
- Earthly Body (edible massage oils)
- Pure Romance (quality products)
Include Note: "For your next self-care night—and for when I can take care of you myself."
Browse Massage Products3. Silk or Satin Robe
Price: $40-$120
Luxurious, comfortable, and sexy. Perfect for lazy video call mornings or getting ready for virtual date nights.
Romantic Touch: Get matching robes for both of you. Morning coffee video calls become more special.
4. Couples Card Game or Book
Price: $15-$35
Games designed to spark intimacy, ask deep questions, and create connection. Play together on video calls.
Recommended Options:
- We're Not Really Strangers (Relationship Edition): Deep conversation starters
- Talk Flirt Dare: Three levels of questions and dares
- Pillow Talk Card Game: Intimate questions for couples
- The Adventure Challenge (Couples Edition): Scratch-off dates and challenges
Level 2: More Intimate (For Established Relationships)
5. Long Distance Touch Technology
Price: $100-$300 | Examples: Lovense, We-Vibe
App-controlled intimate devices that your partner can control from anywhere in the world. Creates real-time physical connection during private video calls.
How It Works:
- Device connects to smartphone app
- Partner controls device remotely from their phone
- Can sync with music, voice, or manual control
- Discreet packaging and shipping
Communication Key: Discuss comfort levels before purchasing. This is intimate territory requiring consent and communication.
Learn More (Discreet Link)6. Photo Shoot Gift Certificate
Price: $150-$500
Professional boudoir photography session in their city. They get beautiful, confident photos—and you get tasteful, artistic photos of your partner.
What to Include:
- Gift certificate to reputable photographer
- Recommendation for 2-3 local photographers
- Note explaining you'd love to see them feeling confident
- Option to keep photos private or share with you
Important: Frame as gift of confidence and empowerment, not demand for photos.
7. Subscription Box for Couples
Price: $30-$80/month
Monthly boxes with intimate products, date night ideas, games, and more. Some designed specifically for long-distance.
Options:
- UnboundBox: Monthly sensual wellness products
- Fantasy Box: Monthly themes with products and ideas
- Happily Unmarried (international): Various relationship boxes
8. "For Our Next Visit" Gift Basket
Cost: $50-$150 | DIY Package
Create custom basket with items to use together during next visit: massage oils, candles, wine, chocolates, bath items, nice sheets, romantic music playlist.
Basket Components:
- Massage oil and candles
- Luxury bath products
- Wine or champagne
- Gourmet chocolates
- Soft blanket or new sheets
- Romantic playlist QR code
- Note: "Can't wait to use all of this with you"
Level 3: Most Intimate (Established, Comfortable Couples)
9. Couples Intimacy App Subscription
Price: $10-$20/month
Apps designed to enhance intimacy for long-distance couples through games, challenges, and private sharing.
Recommended Apps:
- Paired Premium: Relationship questions and intimacy builders
- iPassion: Intimate games and activities for couples
- Between App Premium: Private couple space with intimate features
10. Custom Romantic Photo Book
Price: $40-$100
Create tasteful photo book of you together—or solo photos you've shared privately. Professional quality print that they can keep private.
Note: Use reputable printing service with privacy guarantee. Mark package as private/personal.
11. Weekend Hotel Package
Price: $200-$600
Book romantic hotel for your next visit with amenities: jacuzzi tub, king bed, room service, spa access, late checkout. Sometimes the gift is privacy and quality time.
Hotel Amenities to Look For:
- In-room jacuzzi or soaking tub
- King size bed
- Privacy (not near family!)
- Room service
- Late checkout option
- Soundproofing (newer hotels)
12. Couples Intimacy Game or Kit
Price: $30-$80
Games and kits designed to enhance physical intimacy, with ideas ranging from sweet to spicy. Some can be adapted for video calls.
Popular Options: Romantic dinner games, date night challenge books, couples adventure kits.
Communication & Confidence Gifts
13. Book: Enhancing Intimacy
Price: $15-$30
Well-written books about maintaining intimacy in long-distance relationships.
Recommended Reads:
- "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski (understanding desire)
- "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel (maintaining desire)
- "The Five Love Languages" (understanding each other)
- "Long Distance Relationships" by Dr. Gregory Guldner
Note: Reading together and discussing creates intimacy and better understanding.
14. Confidence Boosting Gift
Price: Varies
Gifts that help your partner feel confident and sexy—because confidence is attractive.
Ideas:
- Personal training sessions
- Spa day or massage package
- New outfit they'd feel great in
- Gym membership or fitness class package
- Skincare or grooming products
Frame Positively: "I love how confident you are when you feel your best. Thought this might be fun for you."
Important Guidelines for Intimate Gifts
1. Communication is Essential
Before gifting anything very intimate:
- Gauge comfort levels through conversation
- Never surprise with extremely intimate items without discussion
- Respect boundaries absolutely
- Be prepared for them to decline—don't take it personally
2. Consider Relationship Stage
- New relationship (0-6 months): Stick to Level 1 (flirty/playful)
- Established (6-18 months): Level 1-2 appropriate
- Long-term (18+ months): All levels, based on comfort
3. Respect Living Situations
Consider who else might see the package:
- Lives with parents? Keep gifts very discreet
- Has roommates? Consider package labeling
- Lives alone? More freedom with gifts
- Use discreet packaging when available
4. Include Context
Always include a note explaining:
- Why you're sending this gift
- That there's no pressure to use/wear immediately
- How it made you think of them
- When you're imagining enjoying it together
5. Never Pressure
- Don't demand photos in exchange for gifts
- Don't make them feel obligated to use items immediately
- Don't pout if they're not as excited as you hoped
- Respect if they want to save certain things for in-person
Virtual Intimacy Ideas (No Purchase Needed)
For Video Calls:
- Virtual dinner date in nice clothes
- Watch sunrise/sunset together
- Get ready for bed together on call
- Virtual movie night with wine
- Play question games that go deep
- Send voice messages instead of text
Building Anticipation:
- Countdown to next visit
- Flirty texts throughout day
- Share playlists with mood
- Describe plans for next visit
- Send photos (appropriate to your comfort)
Red Flags to Avoid
- Don't gift anything you wouldn't want discovered by family if they live at home
- Don't make assumptions about what they'd be comfortable with
- Don't use intimate gifts to pressure for photos or virtual intimacy
- Don't compare their reactions to what you hoped for
- Don't buy sizes you're guessing at—ask or check tags
- Don't buy tech without researching reviews and safety
When Intimate Gifts Are Most Appropriate
Best occasions for intimate gifts:
- Milestone anniversaries (6 months, 1 year, etc.)
- After a visit (reminder of physical connection)
- Before a visit (building anticipation)
- Valentine's Day (expected time for romantic gifts)
- Birthdays (depending on what else you're gifting)
- Random (when the relationship feels secure and playful)
Alternative: Experience Over Object
Sometimes the best "spicy" gift isn't an object—it's time together:
- Weekend alone together (rent Airbnb, not stay with family)
- Hotel with privacy and amenities
- Surprise visit for quality time
- Couples spa day followed by private time
- Romantic dinner and nice hotel room
Final Thoughts
Intimate gifts in long-distance relationships walk a fine line—you want to maintain that physical connection and show desire, but you also need to be respectful, appropriate, and considerate of boundaries and circumstances.
The best intimate gifts accomplish several things: they show you find your partner attractive, they create anticipation for your next visit, they add playfulness to your relationship, and they respect boundaries while gently pushing comfort zones (when appropriate).
Remember: physical intimacy is just one aspect of your relationship. Don't let gifts in this category overshadow emotional intimacy, communication, trust, and all the other elements that make your relationship work despite distance.
Most importantly—when in doubt, communicate. A conversation about desires, boundaries, and comfort levels is worth far more than any gift. And sometimes, the sexiest thing you can do from a distance is simply tell your partner, honestly and vulnerably, how much you want them and miss their physical presence. Words are free, and they're powerful.
Keep the Spark Alive
Choose gifts appropriate to your relationship stage and your partner's comfort level. When done thoughtfully, intimate gifts can enhance your connection and create excitement for your future together. Always prioritize communication, consent, and respect.
Looking for other gift ideas? Check out romantic gifts for LDR couples and experience gifts for more inspiration.