Good Night Texts for Long Distance Relationships

Last Updated: October 2024 | 7 min read

In long-distance relationships, going to bed alone is one of the hardest parts. You can't curl up next to your person, can't give them a goodnight kiss, can't hold them as you fall asleep.

But a thoughtful good night text? That's the next best thing. It's your virtual presence tucking them in, the last voice they "hear" before sleep, a reminder that even in different beds and different cities, they're still yours and you're still theirs.

A good night text might seem small, but research shows that bedtime rituals significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Ending the day with connection—even digital connection—creates security, comfort, and intimacy.

Here's how to make your good night texts truly special.

Why Good Night Texts Matter in LDRs

Nighttime is when loneliness hits hardest in long-distance relationships. The day is over, distractions fade, and you're faced with an empty bed and the ache of missing them.

A good night text serves several purposes:

  • Creates routine and ritual: Humans crave predictability. Knowing you'll hear from them before sleep creates comfort and security
  • Eases anxiety: A sweet message before bed reduces insecurity and helps you both sleep better
  • Bookends the day: Combined with good morning texts, you're present at the beginning and end of each day
  • Expresses care: Taking time to craft a thoughtful message shows your partner they're the last thing on your mind before sleep
  • Maintains intimacy: In the absence of physical closeness, words become even more important

Sweet and Romantic Good Night Texts

  • "Good night, my love. I wish I could be there to hold you, but for now, imagine my arms around you as you fall asleep."
  • "Sweet dreams to the person who makes all my dreams come true. Sleep well, knowing you're loved beyond measure."
  • "Good night, beautiful. I hope you dream of us and all the amazing things we'll do when we're finally together."
  • "As you close your eyes tonight, remember that you're the last thing I think about before I sleep and the first thing I think about when I wake up."
  • "Good night to my favorite person in the entire world. Distance means nothing when someone means everything."
  • "Sleep tight, love. Tomorrow is one day closer to being in your arms again."
  • "I'm sending you a million kisses through this text. Can you feel them? Good night, sweetheart."
  • "Good night, my love. If I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd put U and I together in the same bed."
  • "Rest well tonight knowing that someone across the miles is falling asleep thinking about you."
  • "Good night. I love you more than I loved you yesterday but not as much as I'll love you tomorrow."

Comforting and Warm Good Night Texts

  • "Good night, babe. I hope your pillow is soft, your blankets are warm, and your dreams are full of happy memories of us."
  • "Sleep peacefully tonight. You're safe, you're loved, and you're missed terribly."
  • "Good night, my darling. May your sleep be deep, your dreams be sweet, and your morning be bright."
  • "Close your eyes and feel my love wrapping around you like the coziest blanket. Good night."
  • "Good night to the one who makes every day brighter just by existing. Rest well—tomorrow is another day to talk and laugh together."
  • "Sending you peaceful vibes and sweet dreams. Sleep well, my love."
  • "Good night. May the moon and stars watch over you until we can watch over each other."
  • "Rest easy tonight knowing that no matter how far apart we are, my heart is always right there with you."

Flirty and Playful Good Night Texts

  • "Good night, gorgeous. Just so you know, you're going to be in my dreams doing very non-PG-13 things."
  • "Sleep well, handsome. I'd say sweet dreams, but I know I'll be in them, so they'll definitely be sweet."
  • "Good night. Try not to dream about me too much (just kidding, dream about me constantly)."
  • "Heading to bed and wishing you were here to help me fall asleep... among other things. Good night, babe."
  • "Good night to the sexiest person who's not in my bed right now (unfortunately)."
  • "Sweet dreams, love. And if you dream about me, I expect a full report in the morning."
  • "Good night. Just a reminder that when we're finally together, we're not leaving the bed for at least a week."
  • "Going to bed now but thinking about all the things I'd rather be doing with you. Good night, you."

Looking for more ways to maintain intimacy? Check our guide to intimacy in long distance.

Missing You Good Night Texts

  • "Good night. Sleeping without you never gets easier, but loving you makes it worth it."
  • "Another night without you. Another night of missing you. Another night of counting down until I can hold you again. Good night, love."
  • "Good night to the person I'd give anything to fall asleep next to right now."
  • "The hardest part of my day is saying good night when what I really want is to say it in person. Sweet dreams, my love."
  • "Good night. I'm going to hug my pillow and pretend it's you (it's a very poor substitute)."
  • "Missing you extra tonight. Good night, sweetheart. Only [X] more days until I can say it to your face."
  • "Good night, my love. Distance is just a test to see how far love can travel. Ours is winning."

Encouraging and Supportive Good Night Texts

Perfect for when they've had a tough day or have something stressful tomorrow:

  • "Good night, love. I know today was hard, but tomorrow is a fresh start. You've got this, and you've got me."
  • "Sleep well tonight. Tomorrow's challenge doesn't stand a chance against your strength and determination. I believe in you completely."
  • "Good night, babe. You did great today, even if it doesn't feel like it. Rest up—you deserve it."
  • "Close your eyes and let go of today's stress. Tomorrow will be better, and I'll be here cheering you on every step of the way. Good night."
  • "Good night to the strongest person I know. You amaze me every single day."
  • "Rest well, my love. Whatever you're worried about, we'll figure it out together. For now, just sleep."

Funny and Lighthearted Good Night Texts

  • "Good night! Don't let the bed bugs bite (and if they do, hit them with a shoe and go back to sleep)."
  • "Time for bed. I'd tell you to sleep tight, but honestly, sleep however is comfortable. You do you."
  • "Good night! I hope your dreams are as weird and wonderful as you are."
  • "Off to dreamland, where hopefully you're dreaming about me and not something weird like fighting a giant chicken."
  • "Good night! May your sleep be long, your dreams be nonsensical, and your morning breath be minimal."
  • "Sleep well! Tomorrow I expect you to be well-rested and ready to tolerate my nonsense again."
  • "Good night. I'd sing you a lullaby, but you're not here to stop me, so consider yourself lucky."

Good Night Texts With Questions or Conversation Starters

When you want to give them something sweet to respond to in the morning:

  • "Good night, love. Question for your morning: If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be? (Hopefully somewhere with me.)"
  • "Sweet dreams. When you wake up, tell me what you dreamed about—I love hearing your dreams."
  • "Good night! Morning challenge: Send me a photo of the first thing you see when you wake up."
  • "Sleep well, babe. Tomorrow let's plan something fun for our next video call. Think about what you'd like to do."
  • "Good night. What's one thing you're grateful for today? I'll tell you mine in the morning."

Countdown Good Night Texts

When you have a visit scheduled:

  • "Good night! Only [X] more nights until I get to say this to your face instead of your phone screen."
  • "Sweet dreams, love. [X] days to go until we're falling asleep together for real."
  • "Good night. This time next week, we'll be together. I can hardly wait."
  • "Sleep tight. The countdown is on: [X] more sleeps until I'm in your arms."

Poetic and Literary Good Night Texts

  • "Good night. 'I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart)' - E.E. Cummings. Always."
  • "As Shakespeare wrote, 'Good night, good night! Parting is such sweet sorrow.' Missing you already."
  • "The moon is beautiful tonight, but not nearly as beautiful as you. Good night, my love."
  • "Good night. 'Whatever our souls are made of, yours and mine are the same.' - Emily Brontë"
  • "Sleep well. The stars are out tonight, and every single one reminds me of reasons I love you."

Creating Your Own Perfect Good Night Text

The best good night texts are personal and authentic. Here's a formula to create your own:

Opening: "Good night" + term of endearment (love, babe, beautiful, my darling, etc.)

Middle: Choose one or more:

  • Something specific about your day together
  • Something you appreciate about them
  • Something you're looking forward to
  • A sweet wish for their sleep/dreams
  • A reminder of your love

Closing: "Sweet dreams," "Sleep well," "Love you," or "Can't wait to talk tomorrow"

Example: "Good night, sweetheart. Thank you for making me laugh so hard on our call tonight—I needed that. Sleep well and dream of all the adventures we'll have together. I love you so much."

Good Night Text Dos and Don'ts

Do:

  • Send it around their actual bedtime (not 3 AM when you're going to sleep)
  • Make it personal and specific sometimes
  • Vary your messages so they don't become routine
  • Include their name or special nickname occasionally
  • Reference something from your day together

Don't:

  • Send the exact same message every single night
  • Start arguments or heavy discussions right before bed
  • Expect an immediate response if they're already asleep
  • Make every message about missing them (balance sweet with hopeful)
  • Forget to send one—consistency matters

Beyond Text: Other Ways to Say Good Night

Voice Notes

Record a short voice message saying good night. Hearing your voice is more intimate than reading text. Learn more about using voice notes effectively.

Video Messages

Record a quick video blowing them a kiss, showing your bedtime routine, or just saying good night face-to-face.

Scheduled Messages

If you're in different time zones and can't text when they're actually going to bed, use scheduled message apps to send it at the right time.

Photos

Send a cozy photo of yourself in bed, your view of the night sky, or a selfie blowing them a kiss.

Virtual Bedtime Calls

Some nights, fall asleep on FaceTime together. There's something comforting about seeing them as you drift off. More ideas in our video call guide.

When You're in Different Time Zones

Time zones complicate bedtime rituals. Options:

  • Send at their bedtime: Even if you're wide awake, send the message when they're actually going to sleep
  • Morning/night combo: Your good night becomes their good morning and vice versa
  • Acknowledge the weirdness: "Good night from the future!" or "Good night (even though it's 2 PM here)"

For more tips, see our guide on managing time zone differences.

What If You Forget?

Life happens. Some nights you'll fall asleep without sending the text. That's okay. In the morning:

"I'm so sorry I fell asleep before saying good night last night. I hope you slept well anyway. Good morning, love. Thinking of you."

Consistency matters, but perfection doesn't. Don't beat yourself up over occasional lapses.

When Good Night Texts Become Routine (In a Bad Way)

After months or years, "good night love you" can start to feel automated. How to keep it fresh:

  • Occasionally write something longer and more thoughtful
  • Reference something specific from your day
  • Switch between text, voice notes, and video
  • Add photos sometimes
  • Try the examples in this article to mix things up

Remember: even a simple "good night, love you" still means something. Don't overthink it every single night.

The Morning After

Pair your good night texts with good morning texts to bookend each day with love and connection.

This creates a rhythm: they go to sleep thinking of you and wake up to you. Even from afar, you're woven into the fabric of their daily life.

The Bottom Line

A good night text won't make the distance disappear. It won't replace being able to hold them as you fall asleep. But it will make the distance more bearable.

It's a small gesture with outsized impact. It says: "You're the last thing on my mind before I sleep. You're important enough for me to take a moment and tell you I love you. No matter how far away you are, you're not alone."

And sometimes, that's exactly what your person needs to hear to fall asleep feeling loved, safe, and secure.

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